It’s harder than it sounds!
I have lived my life failing to understand that inner peace is a choice. I have been through what feels like a never ending roller coaster of emotions, hardships and disappointments. Yes, yes a little dramatic but, in these situations you do tend to exaggerate and feel sorry for yourself. I’m here to tell you that finding inner peace can only be achieved by you and you alone. It is not dependent on anyone else or anything else.
Finding this inner peace is something that you have to consistently work at and practice in every situation. For example, driving to work everyday – we probably come across a driver who either cuts across you, does not indicate etc. and we find ourselves in a fit of rage and frustration that it ultimately sets the tone for the rest of our day. We reach the office and find ourselves complaining to our colleagues about the incident which infuriates us even more. Ask yourself this; has it made you feel any better complaining about it? Has it solved anything? Is it helping you do your job? In the end, you have to wake up the next morning and drive to work all over again – so don’t make it unpleasant for yourself or allow others to make it unpleasant for you.
I always thought that inner peace could only ever be achieved by monks (naïve, I know) or anyone living a reclusive lifestyle who didn’t not have the day-to-day pressures. But, as I got older I learned that inner peace is about acceptance. It is what it is. Accept that your boss is nasty, accept that you cannot control every situation, accept that there will be traffic every morning, BUT DO NOT LET IT DEFINE YOU OR DEFEAT YOU. Accepting is one thing, but don’t give up. Confusing, right? Finding balance is the hard part, but as a start know that the only person you can change is yourself and your reaction.
In situations where you are finding yourself emotional and overwhelmed, you will notice that your mind becomes clouded and you aren’t able to think rationally. It builds up even more and you find yourself completely defeated. There is a lot of negative energy and insanity in this world, but we can learn to live with inner peace. It begins with you and becoming aware of who you truly are; always keep in mind that you are loved, practice kindness and positivity (you’ll notice it is so much easier to say horrible things than it is saying nice things – try not to say the ugly things because you’re just feeding your inner demon) and most of all love yourself. Love yourself first, so that in turn you can give that same love and peace to the people around you.
I hope you find the happiness and peace you deserve…
girl about town