It’s harder than it sounds!
I have lived my life failing to understand that inner peace is a choice. I have been through what feels like a never ending roller coaster of emotions, hardships and disappointments. Yes, yes a little dramatic but, in these situations you do tend to exaggerate and feel sorry for yourself. I’m here to tell you that finding inner peace can only be achieved by you and you alone. It is not dependent on anyone else or anything else.
Finding this inner peace is something that you have to consistently work at and practice in every situation. For example, driving to work everyday – we probably come across a driver who either cuts across you, does not indicate etc. and we find ourselves in a fit of rage and frustration that it ultimately sets the tone for the rest of our day. We reach the office and find ourselves complaining to our colleagues about the incident which infuriates us even more. Ask yourself this; has it made you feel any better complaining about it? Has it solved anything? Is it helping you do your job? In the end, you have to wake up the next morning and drive to work all over again – so don’t make it unpleasant for yourself or allow others to make it unpleasant for you.
I always thought that inner peace could only ever be achieved by monks (naïve, I know) or anyone living a reclusive lifestyle who didn’t not have the day-to-day pressures. But, as I got older I learned that inner peace is about acceptance. It is what it is. Accept that your boss is nasty, accept that you cannot control every situation, accept that there will be traffic every morning, BUT DO NOT LET IT DEFINE YOU OR DEFEAT YOU. Accepting is one thing, but don’t give up. Confusing, right? Finding balance is the hard part, but as a start know that the only person you can change is yourself and your reaction.
In situations where you are finding yourself emotional and overwhelmed, you will notice that your mind becomes clouded and you aren’t able to think rationally. It builds up even more and you find yourself completely defeated. There is a lot of negative energy and insanity in this world, but we can learn to live with inner peace. It begins with you and becoming aware of who you truly are; always keep in mind that you are loved, practice kindness and positivity (you’ll notice it is so much easier to say horrible things than it is saying nice things – try not to say the ugly things because you’re just feeding your inner demon) and most of all love yourself. Love yourself first, so that in turn you can give that same love and peace to the people around you.
I hope you find the happiness and peace you deserve…
girl about town
Influential, Self Belief, Persistent, Independent, Selfless, Patient, Loving, Accepting of my Flaws, Ambitious, Helpful, Humility.
Now that I have completed my Honours Degree, I am still so uncertain of what I want to do and where I want to go. I became overwhelmed with the pressures of finding a job and didn’t know what type of job I wanted within my field. So, I took a step back and self reflected. I needed to find out what type of person I wanted to become. I needed to find out the type of Woman I aspire to be.
Some of the most influential Women in History have changed the opinions and actions of others. Jordan’s Queen Noor, Simone de Beauvoir and Doris Lessing are just a few of the Women who have had an impact globally and who has had a positive influence. Most of their work and teachings had been sustained over time and best of all these Women represent many professions and cultures.
I would most definitely want to be as influential. However, with being influential comes responsibility and many other traits. As mentioned above, self belief is but the most essential of them all. If you don’t believe you can succeed, then you won’t get very far. Ultimately, if you think you can, then you can and if you don’t, then you’re probably right. Self belief together with confidence is what will get you the trust and respect from your peers.
Many Women are constantly wanting to change the way they look. It’s not necessarily a bad thing as it can be for the best however, it becomes a problem when the change they want impacts their mind, body and soul. Remember, there is always going to be someone who is prettier than you, smarter than you and younger than you but no one is YOU. So, be accepting of your flaws. Once you have accepted them then no one can use them against you. You are strong when you know your weaknesses. Don’t let it hold you back or hinder your progress.
Be persistent – NEVER GIVE UP! Of course there will be days when you fee like giving up. When you’re down, take a step back and remind yourself of your goals and what you have achieved thus far. Ambition is just as important. You really have to want something if you are going to succeed.
Every Woman strives to be independent. Ultimately, you have yourself to fall back on. Thus, it is exceedingly important to be able to handle things on your own. Being independent means being secure with who you are and your beliefs. It is most empowering knowing that you have control of your life and the choices you make.
There are a few other qualities that every Woman should possess. Patience is key. Good things come to those who wait. And when it comes, it would have been worth the wait. Help when you can because the result from helping is most rewarding. Always be humble. Never be afraid to admit that you do not know something. Humility makes you more influential.
Let’s be the New Women that push the limits set by society. It is not just about being a Woman anymore. It is the type of Woman you choose to be.
I wanted to believe that blogging would be an easy task, but then I discovered that I really don’t have much to blog about. Furthermore, who would read about what I have to say…if I had something to say???
So, where do I begin with a blog? Does everybody start as clueless?
Before these blogs, there were personal diaries. You would buy yourself a blank book and put pen to paper. If you were like me, you would stare at the first page for hours, wondering exactly what you should write about. It had to be brilliant, witty, and wise. That first page was your introduction and it set the tone for the rest of the diary. My first diary had one entire sentence in it. Just one. I hid that diary somewhere in my cupboard so no one could see how inadequate I was.
But let me not make the same mistake. Inadequate and all… Here I go 🙂
girl about town is a piece of me. It deals with fashion and my style, cultures and lifestyles. It’s what I enjoy doing, my experiences, the things I like, the things I don’t like, what makes me sad and happy, even angry. It’s my passions and hobbies, my favourite people and what I care about the most.
girl about town is my piece of paradise. My Universo Paralello.